Online Personals Guide

• READ PLENTY OF ADS BEFORE YOU WRITE YOUR OWN
  It is easy to see what works and what doesn't when you start reading what is being written out there. Read the men's and women's ad's. Use the things that attract you to a certain type of ad and adjust it for yourself. Stay away from what seems horrible to you. The words you use is the FIRST IMPRESSION that you'll make.

• EVALUATE THE SERVICE
  Any personals site worthwhile will be happy to prove it to you. Browse the ads, place your own ad, search for the real type of person that you're wanting as your extramarital partner. When you have found enough people that you are interested in meeting, go ahead and register so you can be ready to respond to ads you find interesting. Know that eventually you'll have to pay for this type of specialized service no matter where you go, but don't base your decision on the fact that you have to pay. If the cost is all you're worried about you'll never meet any of the people you've seen here so jump in!

• SIGN UP USING AN E-MAIL ALIAS
  Protect yourself, always! Starting right from the beginning, you should sign-up with an e-mail alias, such as this available from Yahoo or Hotmail and use it when you sign up for our Private Affairs service. Use it when you start corresponding outside of Private Affairs with your potential lover too. Be sure to choose a sensible name, "wildgirl@hotmail.com" or "hornyguy@yahoo.com" will only get you in trouble.

• A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS....
  ... In most places...... But Not Here!. We are most concerned about your privacy and security here. For your protection, we do not allow pictures to be published within our service. Imagine if your Spouse or someone you know happens by here and sees your ad... complete with picture... Uh ohhhh!

• DO NOT LIMIT YOURSELF BY LOCATION
  We live in a portable world! Destiny might just bring together the Pacific and the Atlantic oceans for you. Do not deny yourself the opportunity of meeting the right person just because they do not live within 100 miles of you.

• HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY
  Your ad is getting lots of responses, great! When it comes time to meet face to face, you don't want to be apologizing or making excuses for the untruths that you told. Honesty attracts honest people. Stick with your instincts too. If you feel that who you are writing and chatting to isn't being truthful, bail out while the waves are still small.

• REPLY TO MANY ADS
  Your response to someone's ad or profile should be well thought out and not pushy. Send one email and wait for a response, several emails to the same person may make you seem desperate and harrassing. Wait for the person to answer you back, and continue replying to other ads, do not send a second e-mail until you receive a reply to the first. Many people do not delete their ads or profiles once they no longer have a need to use the service, so you may be talking to someone that isn't even there! In an effort to keep this type of thing to a minimum, all of our users are subject to a "120 day login or be deleted" policy.

• DO NOT GIVE UP
  Getting responses from the right person can be hard, don't give up. Reword your ad, stay friendly. If you set a time limit on yourself, your pessimism will show through. Don't rush into anything!